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I had mentioned in a previous newsletter that in March I had a wonderful opportunity to travel to Israel. As I have had time to reflect, there is much that I have taken away from this experience. After the trip, many people have asked me about it. I started to notice a question that I was asked repeatedly: “Are you going to do a presentation on your trip?”
When I am asked a question multiple times or see a theme emerge in interactions with others and circumstances, I take this as an indication that I need to reflect on this question and/ or theme. This is part of the process I am using in taking time to listen within and also be open to watching around me.
As I thought about doing a presentation, my first question was: “What would be the purpose?” Another key to listening and watching is not just to do something as an immediate reaction but to tie our actions to a meaningful direction. So, I then had to pose this question within myself, reflect, wait and see what answers came. In this case, my reason for going to Israel was highly connected to the objective of philanthropy.
To just “do” a presentation on Israel would be “nice,” but I don’t want to live life just doing good things. I want to live life purposefully. Using my trip to further explain philanthropy at a deeper level sparked a desire within me. Now, this could be a reason to do a presentation.
So, my next step was then to ask trusted others for their feedback. What is their reaction to me providing a presentation of my trip to Israel connected to philanthropy? Notice that I did not ask for others feedback as my first step. I took time to listen within first. But after listening within, there is also power in listening to others. This is where I see if I gain confirmations or “push-backs.” Then, I listen some more. Do I feel resolute in moving forward on the idea? Or do I need to listen, wait and refine more?
In this case, I felt confirmed in moving forward. However, when I listen for direction with issues, this is not always the case. I currently have another issue where I am seeking direction, but keep getting push-back to wait. Waiting is hard for me. I like resolution. I like putting a “check mark” and moving forward.
Waiting requires me to trust outside of myself. I don’t like feeling the loss of control. However, I know too well that when I push something just for my own control or resolution, the results are not good. Usually, I end up having no results and really the more important indicator is that I end up feeling burned out and depleted.
So in summary, here are some steps in applying reflecting.
- REFLECT & LISTEN within
- WATCH for themes in interaction with other people and circumstances in daily life
- ASK during a time of refection: What does this mean?… What is the purpose?… Where do I feel peace?… Where do I feel resistance?
- LISTEN & WAIT for direction
- CHECK-OUT for confirmation or feedback from trusted others
- MOVE or WAIT more
- CONTINUE to reflect & listen whether moving on an idea or waiting

Leading with Love
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Yesterday I spoke at our local Rotary Club about my trip to Israel. I traveled to Israel with colleagues from JDLA, which is a consulting group that helps the philanthropic sector reach its potential. A theme of my Israel presentation was philanthropy. Philanthropy at its core means “love of mankind.” When we hear someone being referred to as a philanthropist, often our first thoughts are that “they must give away a lot of money.” However, when you truly love someone, your relationship is more than just giving money.
Leading with Passion
Philanthropy is your specific outlet to show love to other people. What drives you to love another person? It is a passion. So when you think about a focus for your love, what would that mission look like? There are so many outlets and ways to show love to people. In fact, I know that in my small community, there are over 400 not-for-profit organizations. So, when seeking an outlet to demonstrate love for others, go with your passion.
Leading with Money & Time
Giving love to others also goes beyond giving money. Think about it. When you love someone, what other things do you tend to give to them? You give them your time. I know that my kids appreciate it when I give them gifts or money. However, what kids most crave from us is our time. They appreciate it when we serve them or just spend time being with them. When you decide to be a philanthropist remember to give financially, but go beyond. When you are passionate about something, you will also volunteer your time.
Leading with Advocacy
What else do you do when you really love someone? You talk about them and glow when sharing about them. This is called advocacy. A philanthropist shares with passion about their mission. Out tour guide in Israel, Andrey, was an advocate for youth in Israel. When he would talk about serving Israeli youth, you could see the passion flowing out of him. You could also see how this came from him giving of his time to be with youth and using his gifting and talent as a tour guide to take youth on special trips.
Leading with Social Capital
A philanthropist who loves with their treasures, gifts and spirit also gains something powerful. It is called social capital. At the core of loving someone is a relationship. The network of loving relationships focused on a shared vision and values is the powerful social capital of philanthropy. When I was in Israel, I had the privilege of staying with Ann. She is a true philanthropist. Because of her passion for her mission, it shows in her giving of money, time and advocacy. She has built powerful social capital, which she uses to further her mission. In fact one of the NPO’s that she leads is focused on connecting people.
So when being a philanthropist, give fully and completely to what you love. Define your passion and then give of your money, time and advocacy. Build relationships and love one another.
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